Weddings are stressful times for families, and sometimes, they can cause various types of disagreements to form. Recently, a stepfather took to social media to reveal an incident that happened at his stepdaughter\u2019s wedding, and internet users are divided as to who is in the right.<\/p>\n
Read through what he had to say and decide who you think is right.<\/p>\n
My stepdaughter will be getting married on August 3rd. The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother\u2019s life (I say her mother because we aren\u2019t married, though we\u2019ve lived together for 10 years) for the past six months.<\/p>\n
My step-daughter graduated last December from University. I paid for her to go to college, though it was a state school, it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school.<\/p>\n
From time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend\u2019s fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her.<\/p>\n
The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave them a list of 20 people that I wanted to invite, you know since I was paying for everything. They told me that was no problem and they\u2019d take care of it. So I let these people know they\u2019d be getting an invite and they should save the date. Saturday, I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn\u2019t invited. He told me that he got an announcement, but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat (along with probably six months of mail) and showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad\u2019s name and her mom\u2019s name and not mine.<\/p>\n
This led to a pretty big fight with my GF, as I found out that NONE of my list of twenty \u201cmade the cut\u201d for the final guest list because \u201c250 people is very tight.\u201d I was pissed, but not a hell of a lot I could do because the important people in my life had already been offended. My GF said, \u201cif some people didn\u2019t rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in.\u201d But that is an ultimate slap in the face in my opinion. So, I was boiling on Saturday.<\/p>\n
Yesterday, we had a Sunday dinner with the future in-law\u2019s family and us and a surprise guest, the \u201cReal Dad.\u201d At this little dinner, my step-daughter announced that her \u201cReal Dad\u201d was going to be able to make it to her wedding and that now he\u2019d be able to give her away. This was greeted with a chorus of \u201cOh how great\u201d and \u201cHow wonderful\u201ds.<\/p>\n
Weddings are stressful times for families, and sometimes, they can cause various types of disagreements to form. Recently, a stepfather took to social media to reveal an incident that happened at his stepdaughter\u2019s wedding, and internet users are divided as to who is in the right.<\/p>\n
Read through what he had to say and decide who you think is right.<\/p>\n
My stepdaughter will be getting married on August 3rd. The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother\u2019s life (I say her mother because we aren\u2019t married, though we\u2019ve lived together for 10 years) for the past six months.<\/p>\n
My step-daughter graduated last December from University. I paid for her to go to college, though it was a state school, it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school.<\/p>\n
From time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend\u2019s fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her.<\/p>\n
The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave them a list of 20 people that I wanted to invite, you know since I was paying for everything. They told me that was no problem and they\u2019d take care of it. So I let these people know they\u2019d be getting an invite and they should save the date. Saturday, I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn\u2019t invited. He told me that he got an announcement, but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat (along with probably six months of mail) and showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad\u2019s name and her mom\u2019s name and not mine.<\/p>\n
This led to a pretty big fight with my GF, as I found out that NONE of my list of twenty \u201cmade the cut\u201d for the final guest list because \u201c250 people is very tight.\u201d I was pissed, but not a hell of a lot I could do because the important people in my life had already been offended. My GF said, \u201cif some people didn\u2019t rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in.\u201d But that is an ultimate slap in the face in my opinion. So, I was boiling on Saturday.<\/p>\n
Yesterday, we had a Sunday dinner with the future in-law\u2019s family and us and a surprise guest, the \u201cReal Dad.\u201d At this little dinner, my step-daughter announced that her \u201cReal Dad\u201d was going to be able to make it to her wedding and that now he\u2019d be able to give her away. This was greeted with a chorus of \u201cOh how great\u201d and \u201cHow wonderful\u201ds.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t think I have ever felt so angry and so disrespected. I was shaking. I took a few seconds to gather my composure because I honestly wasn\u2019t sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or both. Once I was sure I\u2019d be able to speak I got up from my chair and said I\u2019d like to make a toast. I can\u2019t remember exactly what I said but the gist of it was this:<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019d like to make a toast.\u201d The sound of spoons against glasses ring in my ears. \u201cIt has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years.\u201d Awe, how sweet. \u201cAt this point in my life, I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom because they have opened my eyes to something very important.\u201d Confident smiles exchanged. \u201cThey have shown me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was.\u201d And now a glimmer of confusion and shock begins to spread on the faces in the room. \u201cThough I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen.\u201d I finished my drink. \u201cYou all can let yourselves out.\u201d<\/p>\n
Is this selfish? I\u2019m supposed to shell out 40 \u2014 50 grand for a wedding that I can\u2019t invite anyone to? That I am not a part of? I\u2019m so done with this crap. I\u2019m done with my step-daughter, I\u2019m done with my GF. I transferred the money out of our joint account last night. (she has not had a job since she moved in with me) This morning I called all the vendors I had written checks to for deposits to refund my money. At present, it looks like I\u2019ll lose around 1500, for the venue, but the other vendors have been great about refunding.<\/p>\n
You want your \u201cREAL DAD\u201d to be on the invitation, to give you away and to sit at the head table, fine, your \u201cREAL DAD\u201d can pay for everything too.<\/p>\n
June 9th 1:15 am \u2013 Girlfriend and Bride are now moved out. They are moving in with the groom. It was very hard not to be petty with some of the \u201cbelongings\u201d they took with them, but it\u2019s done and I switched out the locks and now it\u2019s time for a brew. I can\u2019t believe how popular this story got, but I feel good to be given support by so many. If I find out what happens with the wedding, I will let you know, but I can\u2019t guarantee that I will put in the effort to find out. From what I\u2019ve heard they are trying to \u201cscale things back\u201d and get his parents to help out. GF burned bridges when I found out she tried to write herself a check on our joint account the day after the unpleasantness. By then I had already moved money, so I guess I\u2019m a bigger ass than her, but I could feel it coming. That\u2019s all. Thanks.\u201d<\/p>\n
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